Da Juana Byrd

This is a very good question.  Of course you know that I think all questions are good but this one is really good.  So, I would like to answer it.  You knew I would.

 
 
“After reading through your website, you mention that ghosts still have many of their personality traits that they did in life.  What about people who had Dementia, or Alzheimer’s disease when they died?  Do their personalities go back to who they were when they were not sick?

 
Susan”

 
Susan, thank you so much for asking this one.  Most people don’t give it a thought but Ronald Reagan made me look at this when he died.  For a couple of days, he was in a place where he couldn’t understand why Nancy wouldn’t look at him or hold his hand. The Alzheimer’s followed him because he did thought it should.  By the time they were at the library President Reagan knew he didn’t have to carry that burden any longer.  So now he acts, talks and walks like he did before the horrible disease he had left him so isolated.  As a matter of fact, most of the time, he shows himself just a little older than when he was back in his glory days of film.

 
Hope I have answered your question.

 
Da Juana

Once again I am going to answer someone here.  Please bear with me.

 
 
“I know you’ll understand this. I lost my beloved sheltie to cancer last August. I’ve had dogs my whole life and have loved them all dearly but this little guy was really special - I adored him. I’m tortured by his final moments, the look in his eyes when I put him down and the emptiness in my home and in my heart. He suffered the last week of his life - before we knew it was cancer. Do you know if he knows how much I loved him and how sorry I am for his suffering and especially how much I miss him? I think about him all the time. I can’t believe he is gone.
 
I appreciate you taking the time to read this.

 
Regards,

Tricia”

 
Tricia, animals come to us with a psychic knowledge that few have.  Of course he knew how much loved him and he still does know it.  In his final moments he was worried how you would handle being without him.  He tells me that you have seen him around a dark table leg.

 
Another thing, he isn’t gone.  Though we die to the physical, the spirit remains and as he told me, he is still around.  He’ll be back again in the body within three years so you will feel him physically again.

 
Talk to him and know he can hear you.

 
Da Juana

Hope you don’t get tire of this but Tracy wrote:

 
“I think I brought a ghost home, it disturbs me when I’m sleeping, opens doors, and such.  I have just recently seen “him” a young man probably in his late teen to 20’s.  The reason I think I brought him home is because I’ve seen the same spirit at work.  I have had weird stuff going on prior to seeing him recently, my cats were following some unknown thing around my apartment with their heads pointed to the ceiling.  Now I’m seeing him.  When I saw him recently he startled me and I yelled at him “oh it’s you, go away”  My question is this, did I bring him from work?  He isn’t bothering me but I don’t want him around in the same sense.  Any advice, I also use sage and prayer to keep the energy positive.  This is a recent issue this spirit was not always the case here.”

 
Tracy, the ghost isn’t following you because it wants to disturb you but because you are psychic or shall we say, a medium.  You see him and that makes him very happy. The cats see him.  Not only that but you talk with him.  Sage and prayer are good but you will always see spirits and guess what?  Inappropriate spirits will not come to you unless you decide to start working murders, like me.  Then they only come to help you solve the case and they don’t stay long.  You are in command of your life, who you choose to let visit your home and where you choose to go ordinarily.

 
Be glad you can see this nice young man.  He’s making you see the gift you have.

 
Happy Holidays

 
Da Juana

Lets talk ghosts. So many times I have people ask me to summon ghosts on their behalf. They never give a thought to the fact that ghosts are only entities that have lost their physical bodies. As a matter of fact, you are a ghost in a human body. Spirits or ghosts live on no matter what. This is something I teach in my book, “Ghosts Talk,” by the way.

 
But back to summoning these nice people and sometimes not-so-nice people when I work murders. I had a person tell me that he knew I would see the person he loved who had died earlier. It was his best friend’s father. While we stood outside, this man walked up beside him. The man, not the ghost, had followed me out and kept on talking because he wanted his loved one to come so that I would see him and tell him about him, which is exactly what I did. Now, that may seem as if I called the ghost up but I didn’t even know the ghost had died earlier because the man and I hadn’t spoken of it. His words to me when I started telling him about his ghost buddy was, “I knew you would see him if anybody did.”

 
Then he proceeded to tell me how his best friend had gone to a very well known television psychic and had not had the privilege of talking with his dad. Now here he was talking to a man that seemed like a father to him with my interpretation. Also, I didn’t know about the ghostly father figure because I didn’t really know the man who followed me out very well. I had only been around him a couple of times. 

 
To make a long story shorter, ghosts have minds of their own. I might ask them to come and join us but they make a choice. It is good of them to show up.

 
Da Juana

There are some people, when you need customer service, who really makes the company. An unnamed phone company was one I had a lot of problems with. We were told one thing when we started with the company only to find out that they didn’t keep their word. And as Oprah says, “Believe the person when they first show you who they are.” But I try to give everyone the benefit of a doubt. Sometimes to my detriment. And believe me, this company made me start to doubt myself.

Anyway after a few years, I’ll make this short because it really wasn’t, we got away from them. Finally! Then I tried straightening it out again. See, we had even gone to the president of the company and the next week she was gone. Whew!

To make a long story short, I found one of those good people. I have always tried to be the best at customer service because that’s what keeps a company going and she was trying too. She told me that she would be retiring in a couple of years but she still cared about her career. This woman gave me my faith back. And though I just had to call her again because something still wasn’t right, she got right on it. To her, I say and extraordinary thanks one more time.

Happy Holidays!

Da Juana

Something that I try to do everyday of the year is to be nice to others. Not just being nice but going one step further for strangers. You see I really do believe in the Golden Rule not the one that says do unto others before they can do unto you. The one that states: do unto others as you would want them to do unto you. I try to take that a step further and treat them better than I would myself. And I don’t know if that is really good or not but it makes me feel good.

Don’t get me wrong. If someone is ugly to me, I can get ugly but why ruin your day just because someone else is in a foul mood. There’s a commercial and I can’t tell you who it is for but it has people who see others being nice to people they don’t know and it starts the chain of goodness. Maybe if we all did that, there would be no wars. It’s worth a try.

Another thing I do is try to smile at everyone. Not because I’m proud of my teeth which I really am but because smiles are contagious too. Have you ever noticed that if someone smiles you have to smile back? And laughter. That’s God’s music. I love comedy just so I can laugh, sometimes till I cry but I love it anyway.

Let’s begin something for the holidays, no matter what your faith. Start doing at least one thing per day that is unexpected for a total stranger whether it’s allowing them to enter a busy street or just holding a door open. See how it makes you feel.

Da Juana