Da Juana Byrd

Well, it seems to be my time for it, here’s another email I want to answer.

 
 
“I just want to know if there is anyway I can communicate with my mother now that she is gone without interfering with her being at peace.  I know there was something or rather say some things that she left unfinished or wanted to see happen before her death.  Like seeing the family unite together without fighting, or even letting each other know what her desires were for each and every one of us in case she passed, letting each one of us know how and what she felt for each one of us.  I really believe she passed wanting to have someone there at time of death to let them know what to do in case she died.  I have a feeling that there is something she wanted to say or clear or telling a truth that we should all know.  I am dwelling on this because I knew her enough to feel what I am feeling, like I am supposed to pick up where she left off and I don’t know how to do it or what to do and it is affecting me.  Can you please help me?

 
Elizabeth”

 
 
Elizabeth the way to communicate with your mother is very simple.  Talk with her just as you would when she was what you consider alive.  And if you want answers without having to come to someone like me here is another way to get a two-way conversation.  Ask your mother to come to you in a dream and tell you what she wants you to know.  Generally, people who have gone over to the other side return in loved ones dreams.  There you can get all the answers you want.  But remember to tell yourself to wake up immediately after the dream, which may not be a dream at all, so that you can recall the dream entirely.

 
Da Juana Byrd

This is a very good question.  Of course you know that I think all questions are good but this one is really good.  So, I would like to answer it.  You knew I would.

 
 
“After reading through your website, you mention that ghosts still have many of their personality traits that they did in life.  What about people who had Dementia, or Alzheimer’s disease when they died?  Do their personalities go back to who they were when they were not sick?

 
Susan”

 
Susan, thank you so much for asking this one.  Most people don’t give it a thought but Ronald Reagan made me look at this when he died.  For a couple of days, he was in a place where he couldn’t understand why Nancy wouldn’t look at him or hold his hand. The Alzheimer’s followed him because he did thought it should.  By the time they were at the library President Reagan knew he didn’t have to carry that burden any longer.  So now he acts, talks and walks like he did before the horrible disease he had left him so isolated.  As a matter of fact, most of the time, he shows himself just a little older than when he was back in his glory days of film.

 
Hope I have answered your question.

 
Da Juana

Once again I am going to answer someone here.  Please bear with me.

 
 
“I know you’ll understand this. I lost my beloved sheltie to cancer last August. I’ve had dogs my whole life and have loved them all dearly but this little guy was really special - I adored him. I’m tortured by his final moments, the look in his eyes when I put him down and the emptiness in my home and in my heart. He suffered the last week of his life - before we knew it was cancer. Do you know if he knows how much I loved him and how sorry I am for his suffering and especially how much I miss him? I think about him all the time. I can’t believe he is gone.
 
I appreciate you taking the time to read this.

 
Regards,

Tricia”

 
Tricia, animals come to us with a psychic knowledge that few have.  Of course he knew how much loved him and he still does know it.  In his final moments he was worried how you would handle being without him.  He tells me that you have seen him around a dark table leg.

 
Another thing, he isn’t gone.  Though we die to the physical, the spirit remains and as he told me, he is still around.  He’ll be back again in the body within three years so you will feel him physically again.

 
Talk to him and know he can hear you.

 
Da Juana

Hope you don’t get tire of this but Tracy wrote:

 
“I think I brought a ghost home, it disturbs me when I’m sleeping, opens doors, and such.  I have just recently seen “him” a young man probably in his late teen to 20’s.  The reason I think I brought him home is because I’ve seen the same spirit at work.  I have had weird stuff going on prior to seeing him recently, my cats were following some unknown thing around my apartment with their heads pointed to the ceiling.  Now I’m seeing him.  When I saw him recently he startled me and I yelled at him “oh it’s you, go away”  My question is this, did I bring him from work?  He isn’t bothering me but I don’t want him around in the same sense.  Any advice, I also use sage and prayer to keep the energy positive.  This is a recent issue this spirit was not always the case here.”

 
Tracy, the ghost isn’t following you because it wants to disturb you but because you are psychic or shall we say, a medium.  You see him and that makes him very happy. The cats see him.  Not only that but you talk with him.  Sage and prayer are good but you will always see spirits and guess what?  Inappropriate spirits will not come to you unless you decide to start working murders, like me.  Then they only come to help you solve the case and they don’t stay long.  You are in command of your life, who you choose to let visit your home and where you choose to go ordinarily.

 
Be glad you can see this nice young man.  He’s making you see the gift you have.

 
Happy Holidays

 
Da Juana

Lets talk ghosts. So many times I have people ask me to summon ghosts on their behalf. They never give a thought to the fact that ghosts are only entities that have lost their physical bodies. As a matter of fact, you are a ghost in a human body. Spirits or ghosts live on no matter what. This is something I teach in my book, “Ghosts Talk,” by the way.

 
But back to summoning these nice people and sometimes not-so-nice people when I work murders. I had a person tell me that he knew I would see the person he loved who had died earlier. It was his best friend’s father. While we stood outside, this man walked up beside him. The man, not the ghost, had followed me out and kept on talking because he wanted his loved one to come so that I would see him and tell him about him, which is exactly what I did. Now, that may seem as if I called the ghost up but I didn’t even know the ghost had died earlier because the man and I hadn’t spoken of it. His words to me when I started telling him about his ghost buddy was, “I knew you would see him if anybody did.”

 
Then he proceeded to tell me how his best friend had gone to a very well known television psychic and had not had the privilege of talking with his dad. Now here he was talking to a man that seemed like a father to him with my interpretation. Also, I didn’t know about the ghostly father figure because I didn’t really know the man who followed me out very well. I had only been around him a couple of times. 

 
To make a long story shorter, ghosts have minds of their own. I might ask them to come and join us but they make a choice. It is good of them to show up.

 
Da Juana

There are some people, when you need customer service, who really makes the company. An unnamed phone company was one I had a lot of problems with. We were told one thing when we started with the company only to find out that they didn’t keep their word. And as Oprah says, “Believe the person when they first show you who they are.” But I try to give everyone the benefit of a doubt. Sometimes to my detriment. And believe me, this company made me start to doubt myself.

Anyway after a few years, I’ll make this short because it really wasn’t, we got away from them. Finally! Then I tried straightening it out again. See, we had even gone to the president of the company and the next week she was gone. Whew!

To make a long story short, I found one of those good people. I have always tried to be the best at customer service because that’s what keeps a company going and she was trying too. She told me that she would be retiring in a couple of years but she still cared about her career. This woman gave me my faith back. And though I just had to call her again because something still wasn’t right, she got right on it. To her, I say and extraordinary thanks one more time.

Happy Holidays!

Da Juana

Something that I try to do everyday of the year is to be nice to others. Not just being nice but going one step further for strangers. You see I really do believe in the Golden Rule not the one that says do unto others before they can do unto you. The one that states: do unto others as you would want them to do unto you. I try to take that a step further and treat them better than I would myself. And I don’t know if that is really good or not but it makes me feel good.

Don’t get me wrong. If someone is ugly to me, I can get ugly but why ruin your day just because someone else is in a foul mood. There’s a commercial and I can’t tell you who it is for but it has people who see others being nice to people they don’t know and it starts the chain of goodness. Maybe if we all did that, there would be no wars. It’s worth a try.

Another thing I do is try to smile at everyone. Not because I’m proud of my teeth which I really am but because smiles are contagious too. Have you ever noticed that if someone smiles you have to smile back? And laughter. That’s God’s music. I love comedy just so I can laugh, sometimes till I cry but I love it anyway.

Let’s begin something for the holidays, no matter what your faith. Start doing at least one thing per day that is unexpected for a total stranger whether it’s allowing them to enter a busy street or just holding a door open. See how it makes you feel.

Da Juana

Today we are on the fringes of a snowstorm, with sleet and freezing rain. The temperature is well below freezing and slated to stay that way. This is the type day you want to curl up by a warm fire, listen to the wind blow and snuggle with your favorite husband and dogs. But alas, it’s a workday. So what to do?

Do you sludge to work and risk car accidents and all those other people who don’t know how to drive in this type weather? Do you call in and say you can’t make it? Or do you lie and say you’re sick because you don’t want you boss and co-workers to know you don’t really want to drive in this?

If you’re me, you do none of the above because, first, you can’t lie, and second, you are the fortunate one who works from your home. That means a 24-7 hour job week with no room to play hooky. And you find yourself doing more housework, while trying to do work that puts food on the table. Also you find your neighbors calling to ask you to baby-sit with their sick children while they go to real jobs because they know you have time. Oh wait, that hasn’t happened in a while. But I’m not griping. I love working from my home until a day like this when the weather is not fit for man nor beast outdoors. That’s when I have to trudge up stairs because I can’t take a weather day.

Hope you have better motoring than me today.

Da Juana

My husband, Claude, asked me, “How can I conquer the fear of the unknown?” He was speaking in regards to selling our home because he can’t see very well and he was wondering how he will get around a new house and neighborhood when we sell our house.

But when he asked that question, I got to thinking. Again. And you know how I am about that. People everywhere go to psychics to face the future or other unknown aspects of their lives. Others come to me or call me to learn about psychic aspects but also to get in touch with loved ones who have gone on or people they consider guides, who generally turn out to be a loved one. Sometimes though, those loved ones might have been relatives in another life. That can get a little sticky especially when your father in another life is a husband now. Lives are the great recycling act God perpetrated on man. More detail is given on these reincarnations in my book, “Ghosts Talk.” If you look at the world and the way it recycles everything, then you get the gist of what God has in mind for you too. Nothing and I mean nothing is every wasted.

To bring up another point Claude made though is that even though he lives with a psychic/medium, sometimes he just doesn’t want to know. And it’s very hard living with a woman who has special senses and doesn’t have a poker face when it comes to them. Many times he has saved me when he saw the look. You women know what I mean.

Yesterday, I told someone that I am learning a very valuable lesson sort of like Jonah sitting under the tree at Nineveh. When it doesn’t happen to you, you can’t really be as sympathetic as you think you are. When it hits home, you learn to become even more compassionate. Oh, it wasn’t that I didn’t understand others’ agony. I’m a good psychic and feel what they feel but it’s different when you live it. I could sit in my safe chair and responsibly tell people that something horrible was going to happen. And because of the way I do my psychic readings, I’d soon forget what I relayed to the person sitting opposite of me because I pray to do so because sometimes it is just too hard not too. But when it hits home, you can’t forget and I think it makes a better person and psychic of you. More empathetic. Really thought that I had enough of that in my life so that I am better at understanding but undoubtedly I needed more and have the teachers in my own home.

I remember once when I was doing a TV news interview, was out of town on this one, and the anchor came out to meet me before we went to do the interview. We only had an actual minute before air. And what did I do, immediately I told her about an illness she had and to see the doctor. She started crying right there, messing up her makeup and we are about to go to air. I was so upset for her but the illness wasn’t mine so I couldn’t really feel what she was feeling. And I didn’t mean to be unfeeling. The words just popped out of my mouth. Then we are both standing there, with her crying and me thinking I was bad for having told her then. The other part of this is that although I’m an empath, it was her with the illness. And sometimes, like Claude said, you just don’t want to know.

Just thinking.

Da Juana

We had a very nice Thanksgiving, ate more than enough, and had some very good camaraderie going on too. Hope you had a wonderful one too.

This year I am able to look out in my back yard and for the first time in a few years really see fall colors happening. It occurred to me that trees, like us, are individuals (I knew this but it comes up again sometimes) though they might have the same genus. In our yard, we have some red oaks that are coloring up spectacularly. Each turns its own shade of scarlet and each does it at differing times and in differing manners. But that makes for some very interesting viewing. And believe me, I’m viewing. With the backdrop of green cedars, the oaks are magnificent. And did I mention the elms. Cedar Elms, American Elms, oh, my!

This, along with Thanksgiving, has made me more aware of how much I should be grateful for. Oh, don’t get me wrong, I’ve had some trying times lately and know there are more to come but I’m so lucky too. And as you have heard me say many times before, we make our own luck. Right now I would like to be just a little luckier, say Claude had his sight back and a few other minor items but I’m proud of what I have too.

Claude and I and the two girls are all better now. We had a wonderful Thanksgiving. We’re alive and can keep on growing spiritually on this side for a moment. And I get to look at God’s glory.

Yeah, I have a lot to be grateful for. What might you be grateful for?

Da Juana